Some people say change is good. To them I say continuity is better. I fear change. Rather, I loathe change. I was much more spontaneous in my youth. I was significantly more likely to do something out of my comfort zone. Then I had kids.
Being a Mom... to twins... with special needs, changed that part of me. The small part of me who could tolerate change and spontaneity was gone. She was replaced with new persona who was bound and determined to spend like "on schedule". In my own head I think of it as being under my umbrella.
Almost any day could turn into a "rainy day". It's why I keep an umbrella in my car. It's the same philosophy that keeps me in my comfort zone. I don't like to go to new places. I don't like to try new things. When I go to the (same old) restaurant I get the same thing. It's the way I keep things moving forward.
I have to wonder... How much am I limiting myself??? Is staying "under my umbrella" keeping me from experiences I should be having. Is trying to protect my sensory sensitive kids from the possible meltdowns keeping them from experiencing new things? It's a balance beam for us. Trying to get the most out of our days but also not stressing the kids out so much they break down.
This summer I am making a concerted effort to step out from the umbrella once in a while. I don't think we'll be getting nuts (I am not sure I have that in me ;D) but I am going to *try* to push through all of our limits and try some new things. Go some places we've never been. Find an adventurous spirit in all of us. It is harder for us than it sounds but we're sure going to try.
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this is actually a very debated issue--to meltdown or not to meltdown. I think there is a line between setting your kids up for success and pacifying them...the latter being the kind of thing that can turn them into demanding monsters. But no matter who you are, no one wants their precious little snowflake to melt down in public.
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